The Pregnancy Debate

Should I or Shouldn't I? That is the question!!! 



      Regardless of how much or how little your government and society would like to take full control of your reproductive organs, I believe women (at least in first world countries such as the United States and most of the West) both young and middle aged should have complete control over their autonomy.  That includes but aren't limited to whether or not they should have children, how many children they should give birth to and when that choice is made. I cannot figure out for the life of me why women still in the year of 2014 are getting "knocked up" with all of the medical advances in technology and science. Pills, surgery, condoms, patches and all the like primary goal is to prevent pregnancies but  still we have these women who get pregnant and end up on welfare because of it. Sometimes knowing full well they and their children will be dependent on it for the rest of their life's.

     My issue is that getting pregnant is a choice. A life long decision that affects you forever until you or unfortunately your child dies. I do not believe there is a such thing as mistakenly getting pregnant. You had sex, you might very well have had sex without a condom. You, being a woman, know the full repercussion to sex without wearing any protection. You know the odds are that you can get pregnant.

     And if you are one who do not want to get pregnant the odds were  actually stacked up against you in the first place. I grow frustrated when I see young women not taking responsibility for their own actions. They aren't taken account for what they did and did not do nor do they show any bearings of their making. As the years go by I see my close and estrange friends continually making the same bad decisions which are to have children when they are unmarried and young. Face the facts children need two parents in the same home regardless of gender.

      Children growing up in a single parent household are depraved of the joys of having two loving parents that enrich their lives. I don't want to recount some honey sweet story about a single mom doing it all and raising highly successful children who are wonderful members of society. Such stories as that does exist but not nearly in the numbers as those children born to crack/heroin addicted mothers who drop out of high school and go to jail in droves. Let's face it, the young single mothers cycle is a lose/lose situation where almost no one wins. For these children growing up in these conditions it is very hard for them to overcome the uphill battle they face.

       Not to be too harsh, to me, it's a stupid decision. And again I say a decision because just as easily is it to have sex without a condom it could have been just as easy to put on a condom, choose abstinence or used any other form of birth control. I am not here to condemn anyone. I just want to talk some sense into these women who make such life altering quick decisions. I understand to a point. Everything seems fun when your young and carefree, the younger you are the more probable you are to make snap decisions that can cost you in the long run. I feel getting pregnant at eighteen up to twenty four is one of those decisions. I just want to talk sense into people who engage in these risky choices. 

       I believe only healthy, responsible adults should have sex since they are the only grouping of people who are physically, mentally and emotionally ready for sex in all of it's forms. Sex in it's truest, rawest form isn't detrimental or sloppy or gross. It is nice, it is rough, it is gentle, it is natural, invigorating, fun, and relaxing. It is something two people in a monogamous relationship or five people in a orgy do out of love or fun or sexual exploration. Sex happens in a multiple marriage or in open relationships where all parties are fully aware of all precautions and joys of the act they will be participating in. 

     Sometimes I wonder if these young women truly get it. Most times these very women grew up in fatherless single parent households. Why can't they see that they inadvertently are 
throwing away their life's? Some less sensitive people just chalk it all up to laziness and low intelligence. Do they not understand their mother's plight? Do they not understand that they are matrons of the state and that welfare is in their near future? Maybe they do not care. And then to that I say I do not care as well. There are no solutions for them.